Don't Hate Me Cause I'm Beautiful

"Don't Hate Me Cause I'm Beautiful" was a comment I made yesterday on my own Facebook status. It was an innocent and I thought humorous comment. But someone did not. They felt the need to inbox me that I wasn't all I thought I was and that I should take a better look at myself and not be so conceited. WOW! Obviously this person doesn't know me very well. True I am a confident woman, but not conceited. I am aware of my flaws and laugh about them instead of tearing myself down. I do have moments when I am hard on myself and the esteem drops lower than normal. I am human after all. But the people that really know me know that I'm down to earth about myself. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What makes me beautiful to myself may make me ugly to you, but that's your opinion and I'm ok with it. No one wants to hear me or anyone else whine nonstop about how much they suck and blah blah blah. I'm not fishing for any compliments, I can compliment myself. But when someone only talks about the negative in themselves it appears you are forcing others to find something good to say about them, find the good in yourself. At different points in time the bulk of my "friends" have called me beautiful or some other descriptive words, so I guess it must be true. I know the ultimate compliment from another woman is hatred, but get over it.
I too can go down that dark scary road of self hatred but I made a choice not to go there. I'm not ashamed of the fact that I love me some me! And you should learn to love you some you. But take the time to really know me before you insult me.

I am United Colors of Benetton!

I am United Colors of Benetton! The people who surround my life are also United Colors of Benetton. In my life there is no room for Racial or Social Profiling. This is all sparked from a conversation with a friend who has recently had to hear some ignorant statements from someone who is delusional in their own grander. I was privy to reading this persons comments and it has lit an unimaginable ball of fire in me. I will not share all of the comments because I quite honestly can't bare to speak them.

The comment of "once you go black you become a single mother". UMM I was a single mother of a white child. I also know many women who are single mothers of children of 1 race. Some are by the choice of the mother and some aren't. But should it really matter what the skin color of the parent is or is it more important that the child is happy and healthy?

The fact that I'm married to a man outside of my race doesn't mean that I try to persuade my girlfriends to date outside of theres. My dominance over my friends isn't that strong. Point in case my friend is still choosing to talk to the person who sparked this fireball. I encourage my friends to find people in their lives that help them grow and treat them with respect. I have no cares as to the race, social status or religion of the potential companion. I accept all kinds into my social circle. As long as they are accepting of a well rounded group.

I have friends that are black, white, latin, asian, gay, straight, bisexual, biracial, atheist, christian, jewish, muslim and confused. And I accept them all as they are! I will eat and drink after all equally, accept a kidney from all equally, and fight for all equally. I do have more than one friend that is different than me. Saying "well I have a black friend" doesn't mean you aren't a racist. These comments are who you really are not the fact that "I've quit smoking and am on edge" in anger often come our true selves.

One bad experience with a person shouldn't taint you against all other people of the same race. Not everyone is the same. Should I assume all Germans are Nazis, all Somalians are pirates, all Italians and Russians are in the mob? I'm part German and can confirm I'm not a Nazi! I am also part Irish and can assure you I am not part of the IRA. What I am is a human being.

Unless you are fully inbred you have no way of knowing what genetic secrets lie in your family tree. For all you know my half breed child may save the world or on a smaller scale your life. Judge people for their person not their genetics. If I punched this guy in the mouth his lip would swell and bleed, just the same as any other human being.

Being a cilvil servant (policeman) is a respectful occupation. I work in a call center, not glamourous at all but I work. So what if you work on movies and direct them. Obviously you're not that important because I have no idea who you are. Yes someone maybe able to find you on IMDB, but I don't care. If your views were leaked to others in your industry your career might be over. Your self proclaimed greatness and being a movie producer don't impress me. I gave natural childbirth to two amazing humans who both have the potential for real greatness. Does that impress you? I work five days a week to support my family, I do charity work, I support my friends in times of need, I cook and clean, I love and fight all while being involved with people who aren't like myself. HMMM sounds fairly successful to me. Maybe I haven't maximized my potential yet but that was my own decision.

In closing unless you are accepting of the human race in its entirety please stay out of my life.