It's me not you

"It's me not you", we've all heard or used this lame excuse during a breakup, but I believe this statement should be used more often. We live in a world where most peoples attitude is the opposite, "It's you not me". We all blame others for the things that go wrong in our lives. It's much easier to blame the masses than it is to take a hard look at yourself.

If you can't keep a friend maybe you're the problem, it is not everyone else. It's easier to think they've got too many issues and they're selfish. That may be true, but turn the mirror on yourself. If at this point in your adult life if you have no attachments there's a problem.

If you can't get past date number one or two, it may not only be the people you're dating. Maybe you want to reevaluate the way you approach others. First impressions are lasting impressions.

Don't blame the cookbook because your dinner sucked, you may just not be gifted with cooking.

Don't blame the store because the dress doesn't fit, maybe it's not the right style for you or maybe some toning is in your/my future.

Bottom line take responsibility for yourself and look inside yourself more often. It's an uncomfortable process but the rewards are beyond satisfying.

This Spring I'm swearing off.....And Embracing

I know it's only February but I'm already planning for spring. As I plot things such as new additions to my wardrobe for the upcoming season I'm a little frightened by some of the things I'm seeing. This may be a year of repeats or nonconformity.

The first thing that is sworn off my wardrobe list is "Flatforms" this is a flat platform shoe. So a wedge that is consistent in thickness all the way across the sole. This shoe will do NOTHING for my short thick legs, except make them appear thick and short. They look like more stylized orthopedic shoes or the shoes that people have to wear when one leg is shorter than the other. Along with the shoe category is this boot-sandal combo thing. WTH is that? It's a sandal on the foot but has shaft up to the knee. Last year I let the ankle boot-sandal thing go but the knee high boot-sandal thing is too much! (But I'm ok with the peep toe booties)

Please explain to me the "undone, yet done" look? It's like you take time to look like you just woke up? Some people can pull this off. If I want to look like I just rolled out of the bed I'll stick to a flowing dress not the wrinkled pants and shirt. I'm all for a little deconstruction of the clothes but if I'm taking all day to do my hair, make up and get dressed I want you to see me and know I spent all day on this. I want messy hair and smudged eyeliner for a reason. I like a worn denim for casual, slouchy shoulders (mine are out a lot) a raw hemline, but not all together.

I'm embracing the 70's throwback style. I'm a sucker for bellbottoms, flowing tops and dresses and LOVE a good platform sandal (my stilettos aren't going away). I can even accept a floral print or two and some tribal inspired prints. Solids will be my standby but I will embrace the print.

Now on to life. I'm working on stopping the soda. To quote a friend the "bubbly goodness" is going to be hard to kick. But I've done it before I can do it again. Anyone know a good Carbonation Anonymous program I can join?

I will re-embrace my picky eating habits. Meat we may be breaking up again, I'm sure at some point in time we will have an affair but I'm thinking we need a break. I will never forget the good times we've had. Veggies and fruits will be my BFFs again.

I'm swearing off laziness! Time to get back to being active. I'm always busy but you can be busy and lazy. Busy lazy people never accomplish anything. I feel the need to make accomplishments not just plans.

I will embrace changing myself for the better. I will regain my sanity (what little there was). I will focus on improving my good and correcting my not so good.

Spring is a season of growth and rebirth, I want to grow. As the ground thaws maybe I will too.